jane_and.the_dragon

My sister told me today our first great grandson is moving to another state far away. I did not get to see him when he was growing up quite as much as I would have liked, because his parents were no longer together by the time he was born. The main times I got to spend time with him was holidays like Christmas, as he spent much of his time with his mother. Some times I would be out shopping and I would hear this little boy's voice ringing through the store. I would turn around and it was my great nephew. He would always have a hug for me. I am sure my sister-in-law would point me out to him when they were out, but that kind of a greeting from someone you love and do not see often makes one warm all over.
I know you have to let go, and let people live their own lives. It is like a poster I used to have on my wall when I was a teen said: " If you love something set it free, if it returns to you it is yours. If it doesn't it never was." So we will see if he and his g/f still come home for Christmas. I am so glad she is going with him. At least with them going together, he will not have to start over in a new place all alone. His g/f is a wonderful girl. I like her very much.
My nephew wanted to be a performer when he was a teen. I do not think he has totally given up that dream, but dreams do not pay the bills. My nephew is one of the few nephews and nieces I have who really understands me ?. Maybe that is why I will miss him so much. We can not live the lives of the younger generation for them. They must make their own way in this world , if they are to grow and be prosperous. Unfortunately that does not stop those they leave behind from missing them.
I do not know if it is because he was the first of his generation in my family, or if it is because he was so much more loving then all the others when he was a child, but I do not think I would miss many of the others as much as I will him. LOL he has a kid brother that I know for a fact I would not miss as much if it were he who was leaving. His brother is a constant agitator, he loves to pick at people, and that bugs me sometimes.
Part of me wants my nephew to be very happy and to do well in his choice of a new place to live. Part of me keeps thinking i wish they would change their minds and stay here with us, but I know only too well people have to go out into the world and see what they can achieve for themselves to really be happy in life.