From time to time something happens that makes you way wow, because wow is the only thing you can say. Sometimes wow is something good sometimes wow is something bad and sometimes it is so shocking wow is all you can say.
This first installment falls into the last category. I have some friends. They are all good people, loving caring strong and reliable. I was at one of their houses today and heard one of them say to their daughter something that made me say wow. They were talking about custody and child support. The subject got to one of the brothers and his sister said to her daughter your uncle does not want those children, because they are tainted. I asked what that meant, and was told it meant they had been sexually abused by the step father, and the real father did not want custody of them because of it. I was in shock. First thing came to my mind was WOW. I know the brother and he is really good with kids so I find it amazing he could turn his back on his own children just because someone abused them. I said it is not the children's fault someone molested them. I wondered what kind of father would turn his back on his kids just when he needed them most.
It was at that point the niece said to her mother that her uncle would not care that he loves kids, and would not blame the kids because some perv did something to them. I am wondering if the statement was the uncles feelings or it it was the opinion of the one that said it. I do not understand how someone could think beautiful little children are tainted when someone abused them.
I find this attitude one of the things that make you say wow. Children need our love not shunning when someone hurts them. They need their family's love and protection to see to it such a thing NEVER happens again. To say these children are tainted stirs memories of stories of how woman used to be treated if they had a child without being married years ago. People need to come into the 21st century and realize these children did nothing to be tainted.
I am a little passionate about this subject because I myself was molested by a family friend I had know my whole life when I was 14. I never told my parents, because my dad and I fought a lot so I was not sure he would believe me as he had know this guys whole family for decades. I did not tell my mom, because I was frightened she would kill the guy and I would lose my mom to the law. I needed my mom more then I needed the perv prosecuted. When I hear someone say a child that is sexually abused is not tainted it makes me angry, because I feel like they would see me as tainted also if they knew I had been molested also. It is so sad when people do not put the blame for bad things where they belong.
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LET'S ALL REMEMBER THE ONLY PERFECT PERSON DIED ON A CROSS THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO.
